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Watch Your Coffee

19th December 2025 | misconcepts.org​

There’s a thought experiment from Jim Rohn that I can’t stop thinking about.

The lesson I took away from this: It doesn’t matter who hands you the bad stuff, it’ll still do its damage.

I experienced this firsthand when my family kept pressuring me to buy a house. They genuinely wanted the best for me and saw property as a smart investment.

But if I'd listened and succumbed to that pressure, I would've bought right at the peak of the housing bubble.

Their intentions were good. Taking the advice would've been disastrous.

I was lucky to catch it. But resisting that pressure took conscious effort – and most of us don't even realize when these dynamics are at play.

Psychologists call this the Halo Effect: when we like someone, we view their actions through rose-tinted glasses. Our feelings become shortcuts for judging character, credibility, and ideas, making it harder to assess objectively.

This creates a dangerous blind spot.

We tolerate the bad stuff from people we love.

We rationalise their harmful behaviour because "they mean well" and adopt their flawed mental models because we trust them, not because their logic holds up under scrutiny.

The damage isn’t intentional, but it’s real.

Even people you love can anchor you to patterns that don’t serve you.

As Richard Feynman warned:

We're most vulnerable to fooling ourselves when our emotions are involved – evolution built these shortcuts for survival, not wisdom.

This isn't about doubting everyone you love. It's about bringing gentle awareness to how you think.

When someone you care about offers advice or models a way of being, pause. Ask yourself: Am I accepting this because it's wise, or because I care about the messenger? Would I adopt this perspective if it came from a stranger?

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Your relationships can stay warm while your thinking stays clear.

Watch your coffee. Not with suspicion, but with care.

A Question For You

Is there advice you're following – or ignoring – based on who said it rather than whether it's a good explanation?

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