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Social Comparison Is a Rigged Game

13th February 2026 | misconcepts.org​

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You probably know you shouldn’t compare yourself to others.

You've heard the quotes.

Maybe you even have a favourite.

But knowing you shouldn't compare doesn't translate into knowing how to stop.

I spent years thinking I just needed to try harder, achieve more, finally be enough. Then I discovered something that changed everything: I was playing a game I could never win.

And once I saw why, stopping became easier.

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Here's why social comparison is rigged

1. You're comparing your 100% to their 1%

You know every doubt you've ever had.

Every 2am anxiety spiral.

Every time you said the wrong thing and replayed it for weeks.

You have 100% of your data.

But you only see 1% of theirs.

A snapshot.

Usually their highlight reel.

You're comparing your unfiltered reality to their carefully curated performance.

Of course you feel inadequate.

2. You're comparing your chapter 1 to their chapter 20

When you start something new, it's tempting to look at someone a hundred steps ahead and conclude you're "behind."

But you're not behind.

You're on different journeys entirely.

Different starting points.

Different resources.

Different timelines.

You wouldn't compare a first-year medical student to a surgeon with twenty years of practice.

Yet you do this to yourself constantly.

3. You're comparing yourself to a fiction

When you lack details about someone's life, your imagination fills the gaps.

Your brain paints what it wants to see.

Someone who never doubts themselves, never fails, always has it together.

You're not measuring yourself against a real person.

You're measuring against an imaginary character you invented.

Once I saw these three factors, the absurdity became obvious.

The game wasn’t just hard.

It was impossible to win by design.

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The only fair comparison

Social comparison is normal.

You'll probably do it automatically sometimes.

But here's what I learned: the only fair comparison is to your past self.

You are on your own journey.

Your own chapter.

Your own book.

So the next time you catch yourself asking “Am I better than them?”, replace it with "Am I better than I was yesterday?"

See you next week,

Syn Yun

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P.S. Comparing ourselves to others doesn’t have to be harmful. The key is shifting from insecurity-based to information-based comparison. In the deep-dive, I break down how I made this shift.

P.P.S If this resonated, I’d love to hear what you struggle with most when it comes to social comparison. Hit reply and let me know. I read every response.

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